Wednesday, November 20, 2013
Islam is not religion
which doesn’t admit the existence of love. But love that was born in Islam is
not love with lust. For instance, love of slave to the Lord, Allah, love of
people to the prophet, love of the children to the parents, etc. whereas love
to another opposite sex usually is love with lust, lust to be possessed, lust
to be gather, and more. But in Islam concept, love to another opposite sex is
allowed when it was bound by marriage. Before it happened, in reality love
doesn’t exist. The only exist is lust and interest a moment.
Because of love in
Islam is a responsibility which not only be said, be written in pink paper with
golden ink or empty promise with short message. But also, true love should be
told as a pledge and responsibility statement that had been seen by many
people. And that pledge doesn’t give to the woman, but it was said to the
father as a promise to take and handle all of the responsibility to take care
the woman, love her till dead as do a part.
That’s love in Islam.
But if has been seen reality life of teenagers nowadays, love is not a
responsibility that was bound by pledge. But, it’s just a date in romantic
place, hold a hand, hug and embrace, even a kiss that’s prohibited explicitly.
Whereas, Islam has organized the relationship between men and women. Only the
legal husband-wife that allowed to do like that, touching, holding a hand, and
kissing.
So…!!! Now, there is a
big question, how can husband and wife to be known each other when steady
doesn’t exist? But if steady is reputed as a introduce each other, it was not
right. In Islam, Ta’aruf is a process to know and introduce. Here, roles of
family is needed. This process more objective than steady. Because, steady only
show the good things, and try everything to look like perfect, make over, wear
a good clothes, and use fragrance. Also, he will choose romantic place for
date, with a candles and flowers. But were all of it will still exist when
marriage has occurred? Were the wife will make over and use fragrance when
gather with the husband forever? Surely, it won’t be, but if an introduction
through Ta’aruf process that’s right in Islam, it will be natural.
So….Don’t make a
ta’aruf terms as a reason to go steady!
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